Maafkan dan teruskan / Maafkan dan tinggalkan.
As much as some people said let's just forgive and forget, tell me the real thing. Look around, do you honestly follow your own advice ?
Yes, some people will always learn to forgive. To accept the fact that someone did them wrong and tried to forgive them and start something new. But here's the thing. It's either two choices. Start something new together, or something new on your own.
Mnusia maafkan, semua manusia boleh maafkan. Tapi, crucial fact is that tak semua manusia boleh lupakan.
Maafkan & teruskan.
Pernah tak kau rasa kau terlalu sayangkan apa yang kau dah ada. I mean, the relationship yang kau usahakan selama ni, menjaga hati masing masing in good times & bad times. Manusia tak sempurna, manusia buat kesilapan. Sebab itu kau maafkan, kau terima baik buruk dia. Walaupun, kadang kadang kesalahan yang dia buat itu bukan kali yang pertama. Kenapa kau masih teruskan ? Sebab kau sayang,kan. Aku tahu. It feels like even if you're hurt, you still chose to stay even if he/she had done you wrong. You chose to forgive for the things they've done wrong, rather than leaving them. It's true strength to stay even if it's already on the rocks. Maybe that's why some people chose to forgive, and they decided to stay. Same goes to marriage I guess. Ikatan yang kukuh dalam masa susah & senang. Walaupun terguris, hati tercalar, mengharapkan orang itu berubah untuk menjaga hati kau. Kau tunggu, tunggu dan tunggu dan usahakan yang terbaik meskipun ada masa diri kau sedih. Memang ramai, orang yang pilih untuk maafkan & teruskan.
But, how many of us experienced a relationship in which we knew it were not right for us but we had extreme difficulty walking away and staying away ? It's a situation that we find ourselves in but yet find it difficult to find ourselves out of.
Maafkan & tinggalkan.
Knowing when is the time to walk away.
As much as we love someone to the core, and not having the strength to walk away because you thought that you won't be happy again. Some people said that knowing when to leave and having the bravery to do so is something big too. It's because you're trying to take a big step ahead, leaving something you love so much. Just because, you deserve to be happy too. Macam mana aku cuba nak cakap ya. Hmm. Kadang kadang, memang kita pemaaf. Sebab kita beri dia peluang, sentiasa berikan dia peluang untuk berubah. Over and over again kita bersabar. Tapi bila kehadiran kita selama ni disia-siakan macam tu sahaja, mana benefitnya ? It's like we're always trying to make them happy, but we're the ones who's suffering.
As i said, I don't give up on people easily. But when I do, it's because there's a strong main reason in it. I left someone, and that's just that. But only god knows how much strength i've been trying to pull to leave it all behind. It's hard. Because I'm not the type of person who wants to leave someone I love behind. But at some point in my life, I know I deserve to be happy too instead of always being taken for granted.
As much as you love someone, you gotta know your worth too. Memang terkadang kita butakan mata kita atas sebab kita sayangkan orang tu. Kita maafkan segalanya,tapi manusia ni ada batasnya. Tak selamanya kita hidup nak rasa tangisan setiap masa. Kita pun berhak mendapat kebahagiaan yang kita sendiri cuba untuk beri. I guess.
Tapi at the end of the day,semua nya berserah pada keputusan hati masing masing. Semua jalan yang kita pilih ada consequencesnya. Kalau stay, kita kena ambil risiko untuk terus bertahan dan cuba memperbaiki apa yang kurang over and over again. Kalau kita pilih untuk move on by ourselves, kita ambil risiko untuk cuba move on dan lupakan or even, get over it. And that wasn't easy either. Hati masing masing, pilih keputusan masing masing.
Setiap keputusan yang kita ambil,jangan persalahkan sesiapa melainkan diri kita sendiri. Kita dah cukup matang untuk membuat keputusan, jadi kita harus matang juga dalam facing all the consequences.
Enough said.
" Tabahlah menjunjung bersamaku."
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